She could have gone to counseling for years with no change if he hadn’t changed. I have discovered in my own life that I often have wonderful ways to solve my wife’s problems. My solutions are nice and concise—except that she doesn’t own them. Therefore, they don’t necessarily work for her. I’m just like Jeff suggesting his wife go jogging at four-thirty in the afternoon. I have to learn to work with her on finding solutions. Finally, it is interesting that it took Linda awhile to get over her paralysis